"Why is your momma white??"

"Color" and "Ethnicity" are big words in my present life. Being a white female married to a black man put me in this position.

The funny thing is, when I first started dating my husband, all of this was not even a thought for me. I did not see his color, nor the experiences I would have in the future by dating him. I only saw the man I fell in love with over time. He always warned me to get my head out of the sand!

Living in Germany, slowly I learned what he was talking about. White/Black relationships have a stigma there too. Usually, the stereotype is: the the trashy white women who does not speak English, goes to the club, gets picked up by a soldier, who comes from a ghetto part of the U.S. and has joined the military to get away, they go out for 4 years until his service in Gemany ends, then he leaves to go back to the U.S., she goes back to the club and finds a new soldier. She is a "recycle". In the time of the strong dollar, there were also benefits of cheap cigarettes and liquor, as well as other amenities from the AAFES exchange involved! Or she becomes pregnant and he leaves her with a bi-racial child, or they get married, she leaves with him to the U.S. (still does not speak English), then comes back a year later because she cannot deal with the Black/White life in the U.S.

I must proudly admit, I was refered to as the "stuck up bitch" amidst my husband's circle of friends, as many of their one, two, or three girlfriends really did portray the above picture and I could not deal with them. I saw a problem with knowing one guy had 3 different girlfriends, with number one being the one he lived with. Just going to the club to dance with my husband put me in the same category.

Now I live here, have two bi-racial children, so I have gone from being the "White woman" to the "White mother". My concerns are shifting, now my reputation is not so important as the safety and happiness of my children.

Even though we hear every day how the U.S. is a melting pot of different cultures, deep down is still the same it was many generations ago. Only now people are afraid to openly voice their opinions about mixed race relationships or individuals because they are afraid to be "politically incorrect" or get sued.

There are many women out there like me, not necessarily dealing with "color", but with religion, traditions, and other dogmas that come with their colored partners. Hallejulah that we are strong, and deal with what is given us with our feminine strength!

Read on and enjoy!

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